If there had been a swear jar in the room, I would’ve owed it a $10. Maybe $20. In a moment of anger, frustration, and worry, I said enough expletives to make a sailor cringe. During a conversation with my daughter, I became angry and worried about a story she told me that involved her. I was not cursing at her, but I definitely said some things about the situation and the other people involved.
Ironically enough, the week’s Bible study for Table 8 was on the taming of the tongue—not really what I wanted to think about in that moment. In James 3:5-12, there is plenty of scripture that reminds us that the tongue, while such a little part of the body, carries a great weight. What come from our heart flows out through the tongue.
It’s so true. In the moment, I felt anger, fury, irritation. The words that came out were exactly those feelings. At a time where I could’ve been an example to my daughter about being slow to anger or watching my words, I did exactly the opposite. I simply showed her words with shock-value and no substance. What exactly does an “F-bomb” bring to the table? You’re right…nothing.
Our words should bring glory to God. They should show people who our Father is. They should be edifying and spirit-lifting, without malice. Yet, often we speak what we want without thought to who around us can hear, whether it be little ears or the Holy Spirit Himself.
“Let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but if there is any good word for edification according to the need of the moment, say that, so that it will give grace to those who hear.” –Ephesians 4:29
How do we do that? How do we strive to purify our speech? We can’t do it on our own, friends. We have to ask God to tame our tongue. We need to ask Him to help control your tongue. And then, Iron Porch, you lean in. Lean into the God who saves and trust the Holy Spirit will continue to do a good work in you. And fight….put on the armor of God that you might be prepared for your heart to stay strong and not allow vile speech to flow from it.
Praise God for forgiveness! I know that with my repentant heart, God has forgiven me for the sin of my speech in that situation. Now, I must remember to guard my heart so that it may not tempt my tongue.