Recently, my 9-year-old son came to my bedside in the middle of the night asking to lay down with me. He said he’d had a bad dream and wanted to snuggle. I asked him about the dream and he shared that it included a pretty explicit description of me committing suicide in front of him.
Through the years, I’ve comforted him several times after a bad dream, but nothing had prepared me for him dreaming that I’d shot myself in front of him. I held him tight and prayed with him to have a calm spirit so that he could fall back to sleep. He recalled a scripture from Deuteronomy 31:6, “So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord, your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.”
I felt his heart rate slow down and his breathing level out as he fell asleep.
I, however, was wide awake and troubled by his dream. Why on earth would his little mind have created a scenario where I would abandon him in such a manner? Are these residual ideas from his birth mom and the adoption process? For that matter, how did he even know something so horrific could happen to a mom or a child?
I untangled myself from the blankets and the kiddo so I could get on my knees and place this burden at the feet of our Lord. While I don’t understand the dream or why my child had it, I do know that I felt relief in sharing my concerns with God.
In the days after that situation, other verses of comfort came to both me and my son.
I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me. He freed me from all my fears.” ~Psalm 34:4
For the Lord says…do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you. I have called you by name; you are mine. ~Isaiah 43:1
Say to those with fearful hearts, ‘Be strong, and do not fear, for your God is coming to destroy your enemies. He is coming to save you.” ~Isaiah 35:4
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. ~Philippians 4:6-7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” ~2 Timothy 1:7
The Iron Porch is a place to be transparent about real-life events. With that in mind, I’ve got to admit my son’s dream has shaken me up for a few days. The one thing that has kept me calm is scripture and prayer. The constant provision of God’s word has encouraged me and reminded us that he does not want us to fear anything.