I have been in a crazy-spiral for the last two weeks. I’ve been feeling anxious, depressed, and disengaged. I want to sleep or eat all the time. I don’t want to converse with people. Or the opposite…I want to fight & argue with people (**insert public apology to my husband and son).
In a casual conversation I was having with someone last week (**please, refer to the last paragraph where I admitted I didn’t want to talk to people), she told me that my “funk” just needed to be turned over to God. I needed to pray about it, give it to God, and move on with life knowing that He would take care of all those worries.
Ummmm, hello ‘Linda,’ I know that. (**for the record, her name isn’t Linda, but I often use that name as a substitute when trying to protect the innocent).
I know I should pray about it and turn it over to God. The truth of the matter is that there are other things that I need to do for my mental health too. I need to take long deep breaths. I need to exercise and eat right. I need a long bubble bath. I need to journal. I need to speak to a therapist or counselor. I need a little white pill. All of that, in addition to praying and taking it to our Father.
This woman was trying to be helpful. She was trying to remind me to take the issues to God. The reality is that this woman’s words were hurtful. She made me feel like I hadn’t already discussed this with God…and if I had, then I wasn’t doing it right if it wasn’t resolved.
Within Christian circles, there is often a stigma associated with mental health assistance. I needed help these last two weeks. Yet, some Christians around me were thinking that I just need to pray. I did pray. But for these last two weeks that wasn’t enough.
I believe whole-heartedly in the power of prayer for healing and changing lives. I also believe in seeking help holistically or through modern medicine. I think there is value in combining these approaches and I think that each person will find what combo works best for them.
If someone breaks their leg, we pray for their healing. However, we’d be appalled if we heard that they were at their home setting the break themselves with just an herbal tea for pain management. We have an expectation that for physical health, we’d combine prayer, modern medicine, and potentially holistic medicine.
Why don’t we extend that grace to mental health, as well?
As Christians, we are doing a disservice to those with mental health illness when we have a judgmental attitude or if we are superficially saying that prayer alone will fix these issues. Prayer alone may work for someone. However, if they need more tangible help of medication or therapy sessions, then we should support and encourage those steps too.
I promise it’s okay to do the combo. I also promise you aren’t alone. There are plenty of us rocking on the porch trying to figure out our combinations.
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
~1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NIV)