Whoever says shopping for a bathing suit is fun is a liar! Sorry if that’s you. But honestly, what’s so fun about it? There are two options when it comes to trying them on, and neither are remotely appealing to me.
One: I trudge to the department store, a.k.a. Target, because I’m a budget-mom, and start perusing the selection. I push one hanger down the pole after another as I realize that bikinis seem to be in style. And not just any bikinis. The ones that are made of 4 total inches of fabric. How on earth does that actually stretch from front to back?! Oops…wrong size. Head to the “Erin” section of swimwear. Ummm, why does everything have a skirt? And every piece is black. I know black is supposed to be slimming, but what about those of us who rival Edward Cullen in the translucent skin category; now I’m just setting myself up to look like a pudgy Wednesday Addams.
I take the 3 ½ pieces of swimwear I found and head to the dressing room where I contemplate whether or not the salad I ate for lunch two days ago will show the dramatic ¼ pound weight loss I accomplished. Go home with no suits. I need more than 4 inches of fabric.
Two: I peruse the websites, looking through pages and pages of swimsuits on models that might possibly be a hair skinnier than my right ankle. It’s a little hard for me to envision myself in it, but maybe my 4-pack and belly button indentation won’t show in the flowery looking one. The one with ruffles off the arm looks promising, until I start thinking about the awesome farmer’s tan I’m going to give myself this summer if I buy it. Nope….take it out of the cart. Thirteen more swimsuits go in the cart where I go back and forth and pull the picture no less than 12 times to then decide it won’t work on my body shape and remove it. I finally decide on three pieces to order. Try them on in the privacy of my own home. Where I hope the salad I ate for lunch seven days ago will show the dramatic ¼ pound weight loss I accomplished.
Am I the only one that feels this way?! Seriously, ladies! I constantly struggle with my self-esteem. This is an actual scenario from this week (minus the ordering online. I haven’t gotten to the ‘Complete Order’ button). I’m happy with who I am, and I’m content with where God has placed me in life. I don’t think I’m ugly. I know God made me exactly as He wanted. So why is believing I’m beautiful no matter what size I am (lol…I actually mistyped there are started to write Ham). Sorry, back on track…why is believing I’m beautiful no matter what size I am so difficult?
The Holy Spirit has been stirring up in me this last month or two the desire to look at the lies of the devil and how deceptive he can be. If satan can get our focus off of God, then it becomes easier to stumble. We find ourselves more inclined to listen to what the world says about who we should be rather than who God says we should be. When we listen to the world, it says “Be whoever you want to be” but in the fine print, “Only if you look and talk like this celebrity or that influencer.” The world says “It doesn’t matter how much you weigh” but in little letters, “Don’t think for one second we’re not limiting your options in stores.” It shows us pictures of well-dressed moms on the go with manicured fingers and beautifully dressed children—but it doesn’t show us the 23 takes and four kids’ meltdowns it took to finally get the perfect snapshot to put on Instagram or Facebook.
Those few examples of how the devil and the world deceives may seem trivial, but it’s a reality that people face every day. We worry about our weight, how we look, who’s going to stare, are our clothes on trend, or whether our children will get teased because of the size of their mother.
My prayer for myself, the women in my life, and the women that this post reaches is that you know God loves you, and He tells you to come to Him JUST AS YOU ARE. He thinks you’re beautiful. And His love conquers any junk and deception the world and the devil may try to feed you. Be proud of who you are and the work the Holy Spirit is fulfilling in your life! You’re worthy of His love.
Have you been struggling with self-esteem like I have? Share your thoughts at the porch!
~Erin
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